Is The Blame Game Damaging Your Relationship?

Is The Blame Game Damaging Your Relationship?

“When you think everything is someone else’s fault, you will suffer a lot. When you realize that everything springs only from yourself, you will learn both peace and joy.” ~ 14th Dalai Lama.

You probably have childhood memories of assigning blame to others or having the finger pointed at you. I have one vivid memory of my father lining all four of us up as children in the hope one of us would step forward and claim responsibility for damaging a pot plant. No such luck… This was the beginning of the infamous O’Dwyer ghost who was jokingly blamed for any unowned mishap.

SO WHY DO WE BLAME OTHERS?

We have all done it; unleashed feelings of frustration or anger onto someone else. According to Brené Brown in her book Rising Strong  one of the reasons we assign blame to others is to avoid feeling pain and discomfort. The need is to feel in control of whatever is going on, but the reality is we risk losing connection with, and the respect of loved ones.

Checkout Brene’s witty 3 minute animation:

target="_blank" rel="noopener">Mindsight. When you tune-in to your emotional state you become aware of your habitual patterns and behaviors, instead of being on autopilot. Mindfulness is about being more connected to yourself and others.

The greatest gift you can give somebody is your own personal development. ~ Jim Rohn

♥   Establish boundaries in your life – Without boundaries you can easily feel like a victim of everyone else’s needs and wants. Whereas healthy boundaries will draw the respect of the people in your life.

In addition, Gabor Maté points out that when you don’t listen to your ‘gut instinct’ to say ‘no’, your body will say no for you. In other words your immune system will be compromised. So healthy boundaries don’t just enhance your relationships, they strengthen your immune system.

Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others. We can’t base our own worthiness on others’ approval. ~ Brené Brown

Your current situation may be your opportunity to identify and change old patterns of behavior, and live a more authentic and meaningful life.

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If the blame game is undermining your relationshisp, then please call me for a Free 15 minute consultation. We can talk about what is going on for you and I can answer any questions you might have. If I am with a client I will get back to you as soon as I can.

or if you are ready to book now

Lets Talk

If the blame game is undermining your relationshisp, then please call me for a Free 15 minute consultation. We can talk about what is going on for you and I can answer any questions you might have. If I am with a client I will get back to you as soon as I can.

or if you are ready to book now

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