Help For Anxiety And Stress
Anxiety and worry are normal reactions to fear and stress, experienced by everyone at one time or another. A little bit of anxiety can actually be useful, as it motivates us to perform well. However, some levels of stress leave people feeling chronically anxious because the brain's fight or flight mechanism is activated, even when there is no threat.
Low self-esteem and approval seeking
In some cases suffers of anxiety and depression also struggle with low self-esteem, and approval seeking. If this is you then your well-being is probably being affected by your level of confidence, how much you value yourself and what you think of yourself. Low self-esteem is associated with self-criticism, self-doubt, suppressed anger, and shame, and social isolation. Popular self help material encourages us to develop high self-esteem, but this is not the long term solution.
Acceptance and commitment counselling is effective help for anxiety. You will learn how to handle unwanted thoughts and feelings, become mindful of the present moment, develop a deep sense of self-worth, self-acceptance, and self-compassion - live a life you really care about.
The experience of grief can evoke distressing emotions, such as anger, denial, sadness, despair, guilt, confusion, disbelief, numbness, or fear. You might be unable to concentrate, sleep or eat, be over-reactive, or want to withdraw. You may feel like you are going crazy.
The pain is often exacerbated by the trigger of other losses. These might include loss of income, career, sense of freedom, sexual function, intimacy, cognitive function, diminished control, independence, mental health, dignity, hope, certainty, and sense of self and identity.
When we think about grief we tend to associate it with the loss of a loved one - bereavement. And this is certainly one of the most distressing experiences any of us will ever have in our life time. However, there are other unwelcome life transitions that can also turn your life inside-out.
These include: Becoming a carer, Business loss, Moving country / City, Miscarriage, Discovering you are unable to have children, Emptynest, Retirement, Relationship breakdown or divorce Chronic Pain and illness.
Counselling can support and equip you through the process of transitioning from life before your loss, to a different way of living - with a renewed sense of hope and meaning in your life. It's not about getting over the loss, it's about how you integrate your loss into your life moving forward.
Do you seem to be arguing about the same things over and over again, or avoid ongoing conflicts altogether, hoping they will fix themselves? Conflict is an inevitable part of any relationship, from disagreements about household chores, to money, parenting or how often you have sex.
So if conflict is normal then what defines a happy couple? Put simply your positive interactions need to outweigh the negative ones. John Gottman has spent years researching the subject and identified a "magic ratio" of 5 to 1. This means in stable, happy relationships, there is only one negative for every five (or more) positive interactions.
John says, “they may be arguing, but they are also laughing and teasing and there are signs of affection because they have made emotional connections.” They have learned to share positive feelings and actions everyday, not just every now and then. In contrast, couples on the verge of breakup or divorce have a positive to negative ratio of 1 to 1 or less.
If you're reading this then you are most likely looking for answers to your relationship issues. Don't put off seeking help. Counselling can assist you to reconnect with your partner, and rekindle your love for one another. You will learn how to strengthen positive communication interactions, manage conflict, really value one another, and develop more love and intimacy.
Chronic Pain Counselling
If you are living with chronic pain / illness then you know that it’s not just your physical health that suffers. It radiates into every facet of your life – impacting on your relationships, parenting, sleep, work / study, and social life. It can lead to intense feelings of depression, anger, frustration, fear, anxiety, and hopelessness.
The quest to find a solution or better medication can start to dominate your every waking moment. You may have seen all sorts of traditional doctors and specialists, as well as less recognised alternative practitioners. Not to mention the time invested in trolling through the myriad of articles and blogs available online.
It makes sense that your focus is on finding physical relief to your pain. After-all your symptoms are in the body.
However, the emotional and psychological stressors associated with your pain can keep you stuck in the pain ⇒ anxiety and depression cycle.
Chronic pain counselling is a safe space to get your story out. We begin to explore the origins of your pain - the events surrounding it and emotions associated with it, and how you may be exacerbating your experience with learned behaviours and responses. Mindfulness and self-compassion are essential components of this process. You will learn how to be present with your body instead of trying to distance yourself from your experience or looking for distractions. Sounds crazy I know, but it is the beginning of living a more full and meaningful life.
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